Romans 9:10-13 And not only this; but when Rebecca also had conceived by one, even by our father Isaac; (For the children being not yet born, neither having done any good or evil, that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works, but of him that calleth;) It was said unto her, The elder shall serve the younger. As it is written, Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated.
Romans chapter 9 and verses similar to this do not support the theory held by those known as Reformed. I truly wish that they would stop reforming and start conforming to the simple teaching of the Word of God.
Point One: God is sovereign. He elected that Israel would be His chosen people.
Point Two: According to His purpose in this decision, He chose Jacob, even though he was younger, to receive the blessing from Isaac. He chose Esau to serve Jacob, even though Esau was the elder of the two.
Point Three: Esau, being chosen to serve Jacob, could have. It was his choice.
Point Four: God states that He hated Esau.
Believers are told to hate –
Luke 14:26 If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
The intent is that the believer will choose the Lord over family. God chose Jacob over Esau.
Just because a believer is not a TULIPite does not mean that believer rejects the absolute sovereignty of God.